The Good, The Bad, The Family

De-centering Men and Strengthening Your Relationship

Why are men most often at the center of our lives, on a personal, professional, and systemic level?
In this episode I dive into the dynamics many couples and families struggle with when it comes to managing the emotions of the men in their life to create safety, how awareness on gender dynamics can impact your relationship, and what can couples do to create meaningful and lasting change. 
I am joined by Angela Porter, LPCC and Celia Beaty, LPCC, two incredible therapists that have years experience working with couples and families. 
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What you can expect from Season Four of The Good, The Bad, The Family
All or nothing thinking
The “fix it” mentality 
Is it Unhealthy to Romanticize Men?
Teaching Consent Young
Dating Apps in your 30s/40s - What’s going on with men?
Men in sports
Power and Control
How to navigate porn: when raising boys, when dating men
 
We're going to have a lot of Tea Time with special guests! Make sure you Subscribe to our Podcast and never miss an episode!
 
Music Credit:From Uppbeat: https://uppbeat.io/t/soundroll/enlightenment
 
 

Loving Men | Hating the Patriarchy

We're back and opening SEASON FOUR with a conversation on patriarchy! 
Join me and my husband, Nathan Lucero, as we explore what it's like to be a man, raise three boys, and explore the relationship we have to the patriarchal system and how it impacts our very important community!
 
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Matriarchy is a Whole Different System TikTok
 
What you can expect from Season Four of The Good, The Bad, The Family
De-centering Men from your life
All or nothing thinking
The “fix it” mentality 
Is it Unhealthy to Romanticize Men?
Teaching Consent Young
Dating Apps in your 30s/40s - What’s going on with men?
Men in sports
Power and Control
How to navigate porn: when raising boys, when dating men
 
We're going to have a lot of Tea Time with special guests! Make sure you Subscribe to our Podcast and never miss an episode!
 
Music Credit:From Uppbeat: https://uppbeat.io/t/soundroll/enlightenment

Understanding Surrogate Partner Therapy

Today's guests are Angela Porter, licensed professional clinical counselor, and Andrew Heartman, certified surrogate partner. 
On this episode we explore the dynamic between surrogate partners, clients, and therapists. We identify ways that this can impact how a person relates to others, provide healing, and change lives. Andrew shares how being a surrogate partner has impacted his personal life, and together we work toward de-stigmatizing surrogate partner therapy so it can become more accessible.
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Want to learn more? Check out these resources Andrew provides:
TV documentary about SPT
Andrew's website
The presentation Dr. Heather Howard and I did for ISSWSH, "Surrogate Partner Therapy: Tools and Lessons that all Providers can apply to Patient Care" is 2nd on this page of videos and interviews.
Surrogate Partner Collective
Surrogate Partner Code of Conduct
Legal and Ethical Statement
How SPT has changed since its inception.
Professional Courses (eligible for AASECT CEs):
Collaborating with Surrogate Partners in the Triadic Model
How to Help Generalize Surrogate Partner Therapy
International Professional Surrogates Association (IPSA)

Perfectionism

There is a constant demand for authenticity in a culture that strives for perfection. I don’t think these two things can coexist… in fact, I believe that perfection doesn’t exist. Join me in this episode as I explore the impact perfectionism and perfectionist thinking has on our relationships, life, and self worth. And I also share some thoughts on how we can change our narrative about perfectionism. 
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Meme Sharing is the New Love Language

On this episode of Family Time, join me and my siblings in a discussion about Meme Sharing... we think it's the new love language and we definitely agree that it is a major factor in culture today. We explore the ways we engage with memes, what it means to share them... and what happens when you get a meme that isn't funny.
What do you think?
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Tea Time: Social Media and Therapy Influencers

I'm joined by my friends/co-worker for a discussion on TikTok and Instagram therapy influencers. We share our thoughts on the benefits and risks of social media therapy. We also discuss some of our personal habits with social media, and throw in some ideas on how we can reduce the negative impact all this has on our life and relationships.
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Boredom and Personal Power

What's personal power? And what does it have to do with being bored? Join me as I explore this connection and chat with some family members about what they do when they're bored.
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The Good, The Bad, The Military Family Part 3: ”Suck It Up Buttercup” The Grief of a Military Spouse

Books, podcasts, brochures, and resources discuss grief in relation to the loss of a loved one. But grief expands beyond death and has no limits to its reach. We grieve for any change in our life, from the smallest differences to the biggest losses. Grief touches us when we change a daily routine or habit and reaches deep into our body when we move away from our family or hometown. In this episode I explore the grief of a military spouse and ways we can transform through our grief.
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*Here are the journal prompts recommended in this episode:
Describe what your grief feels like to you.
What messages did you learn about grief and how are they blocking you from trusting, thinking, and feeling?
Reclaim your thoughts and feelings. Create a timeline of the losses you’ve experienced over your lifetime. Ask yourself, how are these losses impacting my life?

The Good, The Bad, The Military Family Part 2 with Trisha Johnson, LMFT

In this episode I am joined by my peer, friend, classmate, and fellow military spouse, Trisha Johnson. Trisha is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in North Carolina and Marine Spouse of 15 years. She shares her story of being a spouse and military family, and working with military members and their family. I am always amazed by Trisha's knowledge and compassion for her job and family.
If you want to learn more about Trisha and her work check out Moments Matter Therapy online or on Instagram!

The Good, The Bad, The Military Family Part 1

Join me in a new series I'm calling, "The Good, The Bad, The Military Family," where I join in conversation with military spouses about the hardships and struggles of military life and military culture.
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